Whoring, Spitzer, and "things that might be dangerous"
Today, we’re going to write a little about Elliot Spitzer. I’m going to be honest and say that this is a recap of an e-mail that I sent to a friend a while back, but it’s been fleshed out a little. I’m still frantically recycling material because I’m under the gun on production and at […]
Why use protocols?
I promised breakdowns of the D/O workshops, but that is not happening right now. I had this piece drafted, and so am going to go ahead and post it. May be a bit more use of slightly older material through next Sunday as I have a grueling set of deadlines in the outside world. So […]
Dark Odyssey – I – Overview…
So as I mentioned, this weekend I was at Dark Odyssey. I am not going to go into the travails of getting into the hotel. Suffice it to say that I was not keen on paying $80 for two days of valet parking. I’m not cheap, but I really just can’t quite stomach paying double […]
Miscellaneous Comments, Baldwin, and Fear…
I missed a post but after the maximum strength core-dump of the moview review, I think everybody can spot me a post. I haven’t updated my arts blog either. I’ll be at Dark Odyssey http://darkodyssey.com/ over the weekend, in case anyone who reads this blog happens to be there. I mean who isn’t going with […]
"Black Snake Moan," Rape and Abuse…
I’m not given to media reviews, but I’m going to break with precedent today. First a quick bow to Gaspar Noe’s Irreversible. This came out in 2002 and got a lot of comments, largely because of a savage beating with a fire extinguisher, and brutal, and very extended, rape sequence with Monica Bellucci. The movie […]
Third Person Address
So today we have a kind of throwaway column. Sunday died because I was on the road. Drove back Monday, and at about 3:30 Tuesday morning woke up. There is nothing quite like the experience of trying to maintain one’s composure as a Dom while explaining to your submissive that you believe you are coming […]
Third Person Address
So today we have a kind of throwaway column. Sunday died because I was on the road. Drove back Monday, and at about 3:30 Tuesday morning woke up. There is nothing quite like the experience of trying to maintain one’s composure as a Dom while explaining to your submissive that you believe you are coming […]
General Drill Order for Submissives
There is no shortage of literature in the world about BDSM at this point. There never really has been, even in the many years before Anne Desclos/Pauline Reage made it beautiful and established that there could be a feminine voice and the existence of a feminine need and urge, and Paulhan made it intellectual and […]
Issues with Transparency
The term “Transparency” has a long history. It initially comes not from strict BDSM, but from the open relationship between Jean-Paul Satre and Simone de Beauvoir, the author of the 1949 work The Second Sex. In 1929 the two made a pact that was the basis for a decades long relationship…they would pursue other relationships […]
The Selfish Dominant
I often feel that if you can’t admit the selfishness of being a Dominant, if you can understand your obligation to give back. If you delude yourself that every part of what you do is about “helping the girl” then I wonder if you can think seriously about whether or not you are really fulfilling […]